The nature of love
Woman pleads guilty in �child groom� case - Crime & Punishment - MSNBC.com
I'll admit that a 37-year old woman marrying a 15-year old boy is ...well, strange, to say the least. But who are we to say that the two don't really love each other? Why is the 15 year old just a kid who doesn't know better? What if that's NOT true? Who are we to say because he loves a 37-year old that there's something wrong with him, and that he needs "intense counseling?" (Not saying that there's nothing wrong with the woman...) Why not do that to ANYONE who is in love with anyone? There must be something wrong with them. Why automatically assume that just because there's a 12 year gap that it isn't real? What do we really know about love? What does the counselor (who will treat the teen) know about love? Who are we to judge?
Other than the fact that it's (a) illegal and (b) wierd.
I bring this up not to say that sex and marriage with a 15-year old isn't wrong, but to delve into the nature of love. Where is the line drawn? There are 35-year olds who know less about love than teenagers. Why did we draw the line at 18? Does something magical happen to all men and women when they turn 18; that they somehow now already know all there is about love and can make rational decisions regarding love? Can ANYONE make a rational decision about love? I don't think so. Whether you're 15 or 85, love muddles the mind--and there's nothing wrong with that.
Now, if the woman just wanted to romp with her son's friend, and consequently got pregnant; and there isn't any real emotional bond, then THAT is wrong. Period. That's exploiting someone else's raging hormones. Whether the person's 15 or 85, it's WRONG.
But sometimes that's what we do to get that quick fix. Where, exactly, is the line between love and lust? Is there a defined line? Or are there many shades of gray?
I think I just wore out the "?" key on my keyboard. G'nite all.
I'll admit that a 37-year old woman marrying a 15-year old boy is ...well, strange, to say the least. But who are we to say that the two don't really love each other? Why is the 15 year old just a kid who doesn't know better? What if that's NOT true? Who are we to say because he loves a 37-year old that there's something wrong with him, and that he needs "intense counseling?" (Not saying that there's nothing wrong with the woman...) Why not do that to ANYONE who is in love with anyone? There must be something wrong with them. Why automatically assume that just because there's a 12 year gap that it isn't real? What do we really know about love? What does the counselor (who will treat the teen) know about love? Who are we to judge?
Other than the fact that it's (a) illegal and (b) wierd.
I bring this up not to say that sex and marriage with a 15-year old isn't wrong, but to delve into the nature of love. Where is the line drawn? There are 35-year olds who know less about love than teenagers. Why did we draw the line at 18? Does something magical happen to all men and women when they turn 18; that they somehow now already know all there is about love and can make rational decisions regarding love? Can ANYONE make a rational decision about love? I don't think so. Whether you're 15 or 85, love muddles the mind--and there's nothing wrong with that.
Now, if the woman just wanted to romp with her son's friend, and consequently got pregnant; and there isn't any real emotional bond, then THAT is wrong. Period. That's exploiting someone else's raging hormones. Whether the person's 15 or 85, it's WRONG.
But sometimes that's what we do to get that quick fix. Where, exactly, is the line between love and lust? Is there a defined line? Or are there many shades of gray?
I think I just wore out the "?" key on my keyboard. G'nite all.
posted by xanadian at 9:07 AM
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